If movies, TV shows or just common sense have taught us anything about weddings it's that they're tough. No matter how well it may end up going, there are just so many ways for it to go horribly wrong. No wonder then that the happy (stressed) couple are given considerable leeway in planning their special day and can reasonably expect that their wants are catered to.
So when one Reddit user was confronted with the unexpected sight of two expectedly cranky kids ("an infant an toddler") on the day of her adults-only wedding ceremony, it was off-putting to say the least.
In a Reddit thread that described the events of the day, the bride-that-was asked if she was an a-hole for ending up kicking the parents of said kids, a couple whom she wasn't very close to, out of her nuptials.
Well, decide for yourself. This is the entire thread:
This couple I’m not very close with but the wife is a long-time family friend so I felt that I should invite her. To be clear, all of my invitations stated that there were to be no children at this wedding. But she and her husband showed up with their infant and toddler (who I think is like 3-4).
At the actual wedding ceremony, I let it slide. I was preoccupied for obvious reasons. I also thought that maybe they planned not to attend the reception or to have someone pick the kids up before it started. (My niece, who was our flower girl, and a few other kids who had to be at the wedding for one reason or another we’re getting picked up/dropped off after the ceremony ended).
Anyway the reception rolls around (I’m fast forwarding through irrelevant details about the wedding but it was beautiful and everything went as smoothly as could be expected). The couple comes and, lo and behold, they still have their children.
I had many other guests and didn’t really feel like dealing with it so I asked our event planner to go over to them and discuss whether someone was picking up the child as the reception (and wedding, frankly!) were not supposed to have children.
I mean, everyone was drinking and loud and rowdy and a crying child and another little one running around was not part of the plan. (The infant already had to be taken out once during the wedding ceremony because of fussiness and the toddler was, from what I could see, already appearing cranky).
My event planner went to talk to the couple. I could tell they were arguing with my event planner though so I went over to help him. I think they thought I came to rescue them because they started going on about how rude my event planner was. I explained that I had actually sent him over to discuss the children. I reiterated that the event was child-free and said that I had stated so clearly on my invitations.
The wife gave a sort of apology and then assured me that they were capable of minding their own children to make sure they didn’t get in the way of anything. I said that wasn’t really the point. That’s when my now-husband comes over and he and the other woman’s husband begin going back and forth and things got a little heated.
Finally I snapped and said that they just needed to go, which, thankfully they did without much more noise. Still, the whole scene was incredibly embarrassing which is exactly what I wanted to avoid.
I really hate that my wedding day had to be somewhat marred by this incident. According to my mother, everyone was talking about it and I guess enjoying a little dramatic entertainment.
Was I the a-hole for making them leave?
As Ron Burgundy would say, that escalalated quickly.
One can tell from the comments that, as in most cases, history seems to have gone on the side of the the victor with people largely supporting the bride's decision of asking the erring couple to leave the event. So the lesson here is to follow instructions; or just not have kids.