Never Do These 5 Things That Can Hurt Your Child’s Self-Respect!

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Here’s a list of 5 things that are a total no-no for your child’s self-esteem!

If you think self-respect is a term coined for adults only, think twice, kids as young as 3 years old too have self-respect. It is crucial for parents to understand that hurting your child’s self-esteem can have a life-long impact on their interpersonal behavior as well as studies. A parent’s acceptance and appreciation towards his/her child can go a long way in building positive self-image of the child in his own understanding. Here’s a list of 5 things you must never do in order to nurture or protect your child’s self-esteem:

1. Over-Helpful

If you a parent who jumps in your shining armour to protect your child from even a tiny snail, then you are affecting his/her self-esteem. Rather than making himself strong, the child will perceive himself to be too weak to take care of himself.

2. Always Comparing

It might sound cliché to say ‘Never compare your child, for every child is unique’, but parents end up comparing their kids to siblings or peers. Mrs. Sharma’s child is so well-behaved, look at you! Adeena studies really hard to be Number 1 in the class always. Look how quickly your big sister has finished her dinner, and so on… We unintentionally feed low self-image by comparing our kids to others.

3. Unrealistic Expectations

A parent must strike a good balance between expectations from his child. Having high expectations can leave the child fearful or frustrated, while having no expectations at all can leave him feel not wanted or worthless.

4. Over-Criticism

Criticizing your child at the drop of a hat and that too harshly or loudly is a recipe of disaster for your child’s self-esteem. You’ll see your child has given up speaking openly, thinking aloud or even getting a hearty laugh.

5. Giving Up

Lastly, never give up on your child. Even if s/he is not improving in studies or his eating habits or in extra-curricular activities, never give up on your effort to motivate him to improve. Your child will lose all his confidence if he/she feels that you have given up on them.

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