Irrfan Khan’s Wife Sutapa Sikdar Quotes Poem by Louise Gluck on Life & Death
Late actor Irrfan Khan’s wife Sutapa Sikdar recently shared a few heartfelt lines in a moving social media post. She shared a picture of her husband’s grave enveloped in a bed of roses. Compared to a few glimpses of the late star’s grave that were shared earlier online, the condition looks far better now.
Taking to her Instagram, Sutapa quoted beautiful lines by Nobel Prize winner Louise Gluck. The excerpts taken from the verses of the renowned American poet expresses Sutapa’s pain that she has been enduring. Sutapa wrote, “…But it's her only hope, the wish to move backward. And just a little, not so far as the marriage, the first kiss (sic.)”
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I'll tell you something: every day people are dying. And that's just the beginning. Every day, in funeral homes, new widows are born, new orphans. They sit with their hands folded, trying to decide about this new life. Then they're in the cemetery, some of them for the first time. They're frightened of crying, sometimes of not crying. Someone leans over, tells them what to do next, which might mean saying a few words, sometimes throwing dirt in the open grave. And after that, everyone goes back to the house, which is suddenly full of visitors. The widow sits on the couch, very stately, so people line up to approach her, sometimes take her hand, sometimes embrace her. She finds something to say to everbody, thanks them, thanks them for coming. In her heart, she wants them to go away. She wants to be back in the cemetery, back in the sickroom, the hospital. She knows it isn't possible. But it's her only hope, the wish to move backward. And just a little, not so far as the marriage, the first kiss. by #Louise Gluck#Nobelprize#celebratinglifeand death
Earlier, a user on Facebook pointed out how Irrfan's grave appeared like a 'trash dumpster', to which Sutapa replied stating that women aren't permitted in Muslim graveyards.
She mentioned that she planted Irrfan’s favourite flower Raat Ki Rani in Igatpuri where she also has a memory stone of her husband. Sutapa said that she buried a few of his favourite things there and she also owns the place. She can sit there for hours without even asking anyone for permission.
"He is there in his spirit. Why should everything be exactly as per definition? And the plants have grown maybe for a purpose look closely," she signed off her post.
Irrfan breathed his last on April 29, 2020. He died due to cancer at the age of 53. He is survived by wife Sutapa and their two sons – Babil and Ayaan. Babil often keeps sharing memories of his father on Instagram, reliving his life time and again.